Our little girl came back feeling upset and hurt because a boy in her class kept calling her names and bad-mouthing her all day in school, so she said.
It turns out that the boy called her “fat” (she’s actually slender and small compared to other classmates) and stuff, telling a good friend of hers not to befriend her (the usual kids stuff). But to the little girl, it is a massive thing in her world. Jismyl did a good job in telling her that she can pray to the Lord, for herself, for the boy who is being nasty and also what to do if he persists on his nasty streaks (tell it to the form teacher for starters).
I had not approach the boy when my daughter pointed him out when I fetched her from school. Reasons being – firstly it is a kids’ squabbles. Secondly, it is important to point her to proper channels rather than taking things into my own hands to settle it. Give the teacher a chance to help resolve such conflicts however trivial they might be. Parental involvment here is unwise, at least such direct approach. Thirdly, it is good to help Amanda to process such matters so that she can grow as she learns that it is a wicked world out there. Can’t shelter her for life, but can enable her to process nastiness, and respond rightly so that she can grow to be a well adjusted, informed kid. Most of all, Jismyl’s encouragement to her about praying tells her that it is not a hopeless situation. Amanda can’t stop the boy from his nastiness (at least in sofar as attitude), but she can know that God is interested and can help her overcome this challenge in her life.
Part and parcel of parenting – helping the child to learn to process unpleasant things/events in life. The privilege and awesome task.